Close friends

Friends might be easy to come by, and just as easily go away again. And we would make new ones along the way and probably lose those too as time passes by. Such is the transient nature of friends that we are as easily gaining as we are losing them.

Close friends however, differ in nature and stature to regular friends who we enjoy having and making but do not really affect us as much when we lose them. Close friends are friends who have stood the test of time and harrowing moments and still remain a fixture in our lives.

Close friends evolve from regular friends who as time passes are as integral in our lives as our family members are. Close friends, have been through every ups and downs and all the craziness in between, seen us at our worse, at our best, through our highs and lows and still insist that they remain intact in the daily going-ons of our lives.

Close friends are rare, few and far between, and as such it is mandatory that we try the best we can to show the few close friends we have how much we treasure and appreciate their presence in our daily lives. Never take our close friends for granted. Even though they've seen us at our worse and have from time to time been the recipient of our worse self, it does not mean they are impervious to the hurt that we can cause them by being our very worse self.

Having close friends means at some point or other we had worked really hard to nurture and build the friendship with the love and care that it would take for a regular friend to turn into the close friends we have now.

Close friends could easily revert back to being regular friend or even worse as years go by and no measures are taken to keep the friendship alive, even close friends could disappear from our lives.

What we must always bear in mind is that although close friends are harder to lose both in the sense that it is hard to make a close friend disappear from your life and the heartache we suffer from losing a close friend is greater than losing a regular friend, it could happen.

Just because we are close friends does not make it absolute that they will always remain that way to us. Close friends are as they are because we had worked hard at that relationship as to elevate them from regular friends to the close friends that they are.

Therefore if we value our close friends and would always want them to remain as such, we must always remember that relationship like everything else that grows, needs nurturing, care and enough time spend together to keep growing. A friendship that lacks attention and commitment will wither and die, just like a plant that is not being cared for and nurtured, will wither and die.